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deep kissing and HIV
HIV can't be transmitted through kissing. It also can't be transmitted through things like massage, masturbation, handjobs, or hugging.
Two weeks ago I was anally penetrated, momentarily, by about 1-2inches, unprotected- and completely by surprise. I freaked and went to the ED an hour later and started PEP (truvada). One week ago the other guy tested positive to HIV (apparently was negative on previous test 3 months earlier) What are the chances of me contracting HIV from this very brief encounter? Really stressed about the whole thing.
Hi. We aren't doctors so we can't give specific medical advice in terms of the chances of acquiring HIV from the encounter, although as you say it was only very brief. But it's great that you've started PEP so quickly. For PEP to be effective it needs to be started within 72 hours (within 24 hours is best), and taken for the full 28 days, so you've got onto that really quickly. For more info about PEP you can visit http://getpep.info/. If you are anxious about things, and want to about the chances of acquiring HIV from the encounter, you could talk to your doctor or a sexual health clinic. Or if you want to speak to someone about how you're feeling about it, you could speak to Q Life: www.qlife.org.au Free call: 1800 184 527, or contact your local organisations for support or referrals at www.endinghiv.org.au/au/aids-councils/
Im 32 and I had unprotected sex with massage therapist in Thailand it was my first time ever it last only for 30mins I\'m married and worried about my risk I asked the girl if she has HIV and she said she test every month and she is safe please answer this I\'m worried
Hi. Although this is an Australian website for gay men and men who have sex with men, we can say that getting regular tests for all STIs (including HIV) is a good idea for anyone that is sexually active, just as part of a routine. If you have had unprotected sex, it is a good idea to go to a doctor or sexual health clinic to get tested so you know. HIV tests can take some time to detect HIV after someone might have been exposed to it, but your doctor or sexual health clinic will be able to talk to you about that and when to test to get a conclusive result.
Hi I am from India had unprotected sex with chicken (Beastality) will I get hiv
If you are concerned about a potential HIV risk, you can ask a doctor about what the risk is. You can also ask them for sexual health check (tests for all STIs including HIV). You can find clinics and doctors in your area here: http://endinghiv.org.au/au/where-to-test/
So yesterday I have visited an erotic massage. At the beggining I lay down on the bed and he massage me with oil all over my back. Later on, he massage my penis and did handjob until my sperm comes out. We did hugged tightly in a nude situation, however we did\'n\'t had sex nor oral sex together and not even a kiss. Likewise we both don\'t wore condom. So my quetion is, \
Hi. What you've described would not be a risk for HIV. You can't get HIV from things like massage, masturbation, handjobs, kissing, or hugging.
Dear Sir/Madam, I am from India. The other day I met a gay man in his 50s and I started playing with his penis. I masturbated him with my thumb and index finger for a few minutes and I felt something sticky which I suppose was his precum. He did not ejaculate but I freaked out when I learned that there was a small cut on the side of my thumb which was due to cutting the skin with a nail cutter from hang nail. The cut was 24 hrs old but it was deep that it hurt a lot and I could see the red inner skin. More to my worry it was oozing liquid so you can say it was still fresh and wet. Taking all this into account, if his precum landed on my fresh wet oozing cut and if this guy was HIV + what are the chances of me getting infected. I am getting paranoid thinking about this whole scene over and over again. What worries me is that since the wound was oozing is it not a direct pathway to the inner bloodstream? After about 30 mins from the incident I pressed this wound hard to check and when I did so few tiny drops of blood came out too. So I would like you to asses my risk regarding this whole incident. I am going nuts thinking about the scene over and over and simply cannot get it out of my mind.
Hi. We aren't doctors here, so we aren't able to provide medical advice. And although this is an Australian site, we can say we're not aware of anyone becoming infected with HIV in the way you described. If it is making you anxious though, it may be worth going to have a chat with a doctor, so they can talk to you about it. If possible, it may be best to talk to a doctor or clinic that does a lot of work in sexual health to help give you peace of mind. They may suggest a HIV test - just to help give you that peace of mind – they will talk to you about the best timing for this. We would always recommend anyone that is sexually active to get regular tests for all STIs (including HIV) anyway, just as part of a routine.
Does nipple play (licking sucking biting - not too hard) present a risk for either guy ? Or is this safe like masturbating one another ?Thanks
Playing with nipples is considered safe and doesn't present a risk for either guy. A person can only become infected with HIV if body fluids that contain HIV (blood, semen, pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), anal mucus, vaginal secretions and breast milk) passes into their blood stream.
I am from India. The other day I met a gay man in his 50s and I started playing with his cock. I masturbated him with my thumb and index finger for a few minutes and I felt something sticky which I suppose was his precum. He did not ejaculate but I freaked out when I learned that there was a small cut on the side of my thumb which was due to cutting the skin with a nail cutter from hang nail. The cut was 24 hrs old but it was deep that it hurt a lot and I could see the red inner skin. More to my worry it was oozing liquid so you can say it was still fresh and wet. Taking all this into account, if his precum landed on my fresh wet oozing cut and if this guy was HIV + what are the chances of me getting infected. I am getting paranoid thinking about this whole scene over and over again. What worries me is that since the wound was oozing is it not a direct pathway to the inner bloodstream? After about 30 mins from the incident I pressed this wound hard to check and when I did so few tiny drops of blood came out too. So I would like you to asses my risk regarding this whole incident.
Hi. We aren't doctors here, and although this is an Australian site, we can say we're not aware of anyone becoming infected with HIV in the way you described. If it is making you anxious though, it may be worth going to have a chat with a doctor, so they can talk to you about it. They may suggest a HIV test just to give you peace of mind – they will talk to you about the best timing for this. We would always recommend anyone that is sexually active to get regular tests for all STIs (including HIV) anyway, just as part of a routine. If possible, it may be best to talk to a doctor or clinic that does a lot of work in sexual health.
I had sex with a man. I was the one inserting. The condom broke during sex and I had not realized it until afterwards. He says he is clean and was tested a few months ago with no sign of HIV. What is my risk and what precautions should I take in order to make sure I am not infected?
There is a lower risk for HIV if you are the insertive partner, than if you are the receptive partner, but it is still possible. If this happened less than 72 hours ago, there is something called PEP (Post-Exposure Prophylaxis) you can take to help prevent the chance of becoming HIV. You can go to www.getpep.info/get-pep-now/ to find out where to get it (and to talk to someone about the risk). Some states and territories also have PEP phone lines you can call for this (for the states and territories that have PEP phone lines, they are listed on those pages on the website). And you can go to www.getpep.info/learn-more/what-is-pep/ for more information about what PEP is and how it works. If this happened more than 72 hours ago, you can find clinics and doctors on this website (www.endinghiv.org.au/au/where-to-test/) to talk to someone about what happened and to organise the best time for testing.
Hi, I had protected Vaginal sex with sex worker a week ago and 2 days after exposure I had some discomfort in penis and a mild pain which almost reduced when I had too much fluids and canberry juice. But I am feeling extremely tired from 2 days. I am not sure why. I have no fever and I am having little cold which is very very mild. I am on my 9th day now. I could only see these symptoms. I am extremely worried about this fatigue. Please let me know if i have a chance of HIV
Hello. Although this is a website for gay men and other men who have sex with men, we can give you some general information. If you used a condom, then this would be considered safe in terms of a risk for HIV. In terms of the symptoms you’ve described, we are not doctors here so we can't comment on those specifically. However, from what you've described, it doesn't sound like symptoms or the timing associated with a recent HIV infection. If someone does contract HIV, shortly afterwards they may experience flu-like symptoms that can range from mild to severe. Although it varies from person to person, if someone has these symptoms, they generally occur between 2 - 6 weeks after exposure to HIV. However, it is important to remember that these symptoms are also common to many other illnesses and infections unrelated to HIV, such as the flu. However, as I mentioned earlier if you used a condom, then this would not be considered a risk for HIV. If you are concerned about your fatigue, you may like to see your doctor about this to see what else it could be. You could also talk to your doctor about your concerns about HIV for some more peace of mind. Although from what you have said, it doesn't sound like a risk for HIV, regular full sexual health check-ups (tests for all STIs) is a good idea for any sexually active person - just as part of an ongoing routine. So you could have a chat to your doctor about STI tests as well.
Hi, I am a 38 year old gay man from India. Last night I hooked up with a 55 year old gay man whose HIV status is unknown. We did not have anal or oral. I touched his penis to give him a hand job but as I held his penis, some of his precum came in contact with my index finger...so I quickly rubbed it off with a cloth...nothing more we did other than hugging and caressing....but next morning I saw that I had a very tiny cut on the side of my thumb about the size of a pinhole...but what freaked me out was it hurt as I pressed the cut and more to add my worst fears, I could see the red tender shiny skin inside. I am getting nuts now thinking what if his precum would have gotten into my wound though I am not sure if his precum touched my thumb? So I would like to know if I was at risk? is there any reported case of anyone being infected n such a manner? Do I need to wait till 3 months to get tested? I am going crazy as I simply cannot put this incident behind my mind and it\'s beginning to take over my life. What worries me the worst is my hangnail wound was red and wet shiny till the next morning and it hurt when I pressed so I am terrified it could have been more fresher the day before at the time of my encounter. Please help.
Hi there. Sorry to hear you’ve been so anxious with this. Although this is an Australian website for gay men and other men who have sex with men, we can say that what you have described does not sound like a risk for HIV. We have certainly never heard of any reported cases of anyone becoming infected this way. If you do want to get tested for peace of mind, HIV tests have what is called a window period. This is the time it can take from if someone becomes HIV positive to when the test can detect it, and this time can vary depending on the test. Here in Australia, most laboratory tests (where blood is drawn and sent by your doctor to the laboratory) can detect if someone has HIV within six weeks of exposure, but rapid HIV tests and some laboratory tests can take up to three months. So you would need to check what the window period is for the test you had for that peace of mind. But remember that what you have described does not sound like a risk for HIV. It may be worth talking to your doctor about your concerns to help you with feeling anxious about this.
On July 10th 2014 I had sex with girl -un protected oral ,she given blow job around 7 mnts and protected vaginal sex also. August 21st I had flew with dry cough and throat pain after the antibiotic flew cured but cough and throat pain continued around 40 days. Later I had another symptoms in sore tongue and white patches also joint pain which is still continuing. I have done CBC,ANA test all are normal. Is there nay chance of HIV while the above sex.Does lymphocyte range will show any abnormalities ,I don\'t have any other symptoms like swollen lymph nodes ,fever...pls answer me ,I am not sleeping since last months,totally tension.
Although this is an Australian website for gay men and other men who have sex with men, we can say that oral sex is considered to be very low risk for HIV transmission. There is potentially a risk to the person performing oral sex if they have abrasions or ulcers in their mouths, or an STI in their throat, and this is increased if they get cum in their mouth. However, we are not aware of any documented cases of HIV transmission to the person receiving oral sex, as you did. And protected vaginal sex is considered safe for HIV. We aren't doctors here, so we can't comment on your symptoms specifically or the tests you've had, but what we can say that if someone does contract HIV, shortly afterwards they may experience what is called a seroconversion illness, though not everyone gets it. It is a flu-like sickness, with symptoms that can range from mild to severe and may include fever, rashes, a sore throat, and swollen glands. Although it varies from person to person, if someone has these symptoms, they generally occur between 2 - 6 weeks after exposure to HIV. However, it is important to remember that these symptoms are also common to many other illnesses, such as the flu. However, what you have described does not sound like a risk for HIV. If you are still concerned, you could go to your doctor about your symptoms to see what else could be causing them. You could also talk about your concerns about HIV while you were there.
Thank you for taking a moment to help answer my question, as it is very important to me. I know you get many per day. I am currently in therapy for issues relating to anxiety, and my therapist has asked me that when an issue brings me anxiety, to try and learn as much about that thing as possible. In following her advice, I am hoping you can help me with something that has caused me sleepless nights of late. I hope you can provide me the most complete answer as possible. I do have a fear of HIV. I am not sure when it began, but it has been something I have dealt with in the past (years ago I had unprotected sex with a one-night stand and it really scared me after multiple tests. I think there is trauma in my fears from that experience of being tested, but I haven\'t worried in awhile after being tested before my marriage. Anyway, my recent fear comes after two moments (one that occurred yesterday) and one that occurred a few months ago: 1. The one from yesterday occurred when I received a non-sexual massage from a massage therapist. The massage was full body, however it was not sexual at all (nothing below the waist and above the quads). I did get my back and shoulders rubbed heavily and I do have pretty bad acne on my back. I don\'t believe there was any active bleeding pimples (but I do have \"reddish\" pimple marks that look like skin that is very thin and delicate and maybe could bleed with pressure). I only worry because I did notice afterward she had a minor cut on her hand (not active bleeding but like a somewhat newish cut). She also discussed during our session that she was a recovering drug user (which may have sparked my anxiety more when I saw the cut). Is there any chance her cut on her hand could spread HIV through the reddish pimples on my back? Or any other way through massage? 2. The second instance came, also at a massage envy, when I was burned with a hot towel during massage. It was burned to the point where it ultimately scabbed (so I\'m not sure if that means it was bleeding or open to the blood stream at some point). I know she was rubbing that area hard with her bare hands, but I do not know if she had a cut ... though my mind brings me to the assumption that she did for fear of worst-case scenario. Thank you so much for taking the time to bring a strong answer for me. I know you are an expert in this field and I truly trust your response. I thank you for helping me out and bless you for all that you do to help people better understand HIV.
Hi there. I'm sorry to hear you've been so anxious about this, but good to hear you are seeing someone to help you. Although this is an Australian website for gay men and other men who have sex with men, we can say that what you have described doesn't sound like it would be a risk for HIV. A person can only become infected with HIV if body fluids that contain HIV passes into their blood stream. The main ways in which this happens are through unprotected sex (anal or vaginal sex without condoms) and sharing needles/syringes. So what you have described doesn't sound like this could have happened, and we haven't heard of any cases where this has happened.
Hi, Yesterday I had an encounter of protected anal sex (I wore a condom and was the \"top\"). Have you heard of anyone getting HIV under these conditions? Should I test in 3 months? Thanks.
Sex with a condom is considered safe for HIV, so what you've described would not be considered a risk to test for specifically. We would always recommend though, that any sexually active person to get regular full sexual health check-ups (tests for all STIs including HIV), just as part of a routine.
I had an exposure on the 7th of July 2014. I kissed a CSW on her neck giving her a love bite. I am not sure if there was any blood involved. Then proceeded with a hand job. I had a small cut in my mouth Since 21st I had sore throat and sinus problem. I also had lymph node on my jaw swollenin last few days. The nasal congestion won\'t go and the sore throat remains till date. I also feel dizzy and out of balance some time. I\'m terrified and afraid. I need to know. 1) If the bite on her neck was strong and if blood would have gone in my mouth would I get infected. 2)Are my symptoms of ARS 3)Would my saliva stop the virus. 4)would I need the test to be taken I am really terrified and worried. Pls guide. Also I took a tridot rapid test on 1st of September exactly after 8 weeks which came negative. Pls help.its been 4 months I have a lymph node in my armpit swollen.I spoke to a doctor and he said there is no reason to be afraid as eight week rapid test is pretty good.And I had no risk too .I am really afraid. Pls help.
Hi. Although this is an Australian website for gay men and other men who have sex with men, we can say that what you have described does not sound like a risk for HIV. It’s unlikely that you were able to draw blood when kissing her neck. But even if you did, HIV doesn’t survive well in the mouth, so that would be a low risk. In terms of the symptoms you’ve described, we are not doctors here but what we can say that if someone does contract HIV, shortly afterwards they may experience what is called a seroconversion illness, though not everyone gets it. It is a flu-like sickness, with symptoms that can range from mild to severe and may include fever, rashes, a sore throat, and swollen glands. Although it varies from person to person, if someone has these symptoms, they generally occur between 2 - 6 weeks after exposure to HIV. However, it is important to remember that these symptoms are also common to many other illnesses, such as the flu. We can’t comment on specific tests from other countries but all HIV tests do have window periods (the time it can take from if someone becomes HIV positive to when the test can detect it), and this time can vary. Here in Australia, most laboratory tests (where blood is sent by your doctor to the laboratory) can detect if someone has HIV within six weeks of exposure, but rapid HIV tests and some laboratory tests can take up to three months (though many don't take this long). So it would be best to check what the window period for your test is with your doctor. However, remember that what you have described does not sound like a risk for HIV. If you are still concerned or anxious, you can talk to your doctor about another test, but you could also talk to them about your concerns then as well.
What\'s the chance of getting hiv through a tattoo needle? After one of my tattoos I got hives on my back
Hi. HIV transmission through getting a tattoo is highly unlikely. Tattoo shops in Australia are required comply with strict regulations. And HIV also dies very quickly after it leaves the body, which would make transmission this way very unlikely. If you are concerned about where you got the tattoo (eg overseas, or not at a recognised tattoo shop) or their practices, you could get a test for HIV and other blood-borne viruses such as hepatitis B and C (hepatitis C can live outside of the body for a bit longer), just for peace of mind. You can search for places to get a test at: www.endinghiv.org.au/where-to-test/
I am male aged 25 from India. I had high risk sexual exposure (first and only) with a prostitute of unknown status in july 2013. To give you some perspective, the prostitute looked very wasted (thin and weak) and was having vaginal yeast infection (which I realised later). Her vaginal lips had cottage cheese like thick layer and foul smell. She slept over my body without the condom. During this time my un-circumcised penis might have touched her vagina. Also, I had shaved my groin the previous day with a razor. Then I put the condom and had sex in missionary position. The intercourse was very dry. After that event, I have been getting various opputunistic infections continously. Initially I got minor fungal infection in groin after 2 months. Then I had pulmonary Tuberculosis 6 months after exposure. I was extremely sick during this period. Then after 13 months I had relapsed severe fungal infection all over my body. Then in the 15th month, I got upper respiratory tract infection. Apart from this I am having other recurrent symptoms - persistant diarrhea, lower back pain and sore throat. I have tested HIV NEGATIVE till 15 months. (by elisa, NAT tests). The cd4 counts were in 500-700 range over 9 month period. Here are my queries: 1. How would you classify my HIV risk? (high/low/medium) 2. Which other STD\'s should I test for? 3. If the HIV tests are negative, why has my immunity decreased to such an extent after this exposure? (i was a very healthy person before exposure) 4. New/recombinant strains for HIV (which have faster disease progression) are continously being discovered. In 2013 alone, new strains were discovered in west africa, france, singapore, russia and India. (gooogle new hiv strains). How can these new strains be detected with the existing tests? If a person has new/mutated strain, the antibody and NAT tests will be negative. AM I CORRECT? (Please, please explain this answer with your reason) 5. If existing tests cannot detect new strains, then how are new strains discovered in the first place? 6. If I am having a new strain, whom should I approach for further investigation? PS: I am tired of doctors telling me \
Hi. I’m sorry to hear you’ve been so anxious about this. As this is an Australian website for gay men and other men who have sex with men though, we aren’t able to give you detailed information. However, we can say what you have described doesn’t sound like a risk for HIV. If you used a condom for sex, then this is considered safe for HIV. We would always recommend any sexually active person to regularly get tested for STDs, just as a routine. We aren’t doctors here, so we can’t provide medical advice about your symptoms, or the details of specific tests or mutations. Our understanding though is that the tests are not affected by mutations of the virus. You can ask your doctor to confirm this. There are other websites that are not specific to Australia or gay men that may be of more help, such as www.thebody.com. However, remember the event you have described doesn’t sound like a risk for HIV.
Hi, I am a 37 year old gay man from India. 4 weeks ago I hooked up with a 60 year old gay man from my city whose HIV status is unknown to me. We had lots of body play. He laid on top of me, kissed my lips, sucked my nipples and licked my chest, belly and pubic area. We did not have anal or oral sex. That\'s all he did to me. When he got off me, I saw his foreskin had lots of precum and that made me freak out. Now here is what it worries me. Ever since that day, I began to worry a lot about HIV infection. I have worst fears and nightmares....what if his precum had touched my pubic area where I have itchy rash....what if it might have gotten into my blood stream through small openings of rash....I tested negative at 13 days which gave me a bit of relief. But my fears and aniexty came back again as each day I went online and started reading about window periods. Now I am having difficult time and every morning my heat rate goes up as I think about the situation. I feel uneasiness in my stomach and have diarrohea when I think about this whole thing. Everyday I spent hours online trying to find convincing answers about my encounter but it seems my mind is simply not ready to accept that I may not be infected and it keeps playing tricks on me. I have lost interest in my day to day activities and all I could do is think about my hiv risk. I keep searching my body for symptoms like checking for enlarged lymph nodes under my ears, side of pelvis, underarm every day etc. and it makes me freak out everytime I see unusual thing like the gland under my left ear is a bit bigger than the left and I keep thinking if this is what called as swollen lymph node. My question to you is was I exposed to hiv risk by my encounter? Do I need to wait till 3 months and go for a final test or shall I forget about this whole thing and continue with my life as I am having hard time passing each day waiting for 2 more months to get one more test? Has HIv transmission been reported till date by such an exposure? Please help.
H i there. I'm sorry to hear you've been so anxious about this. What you have described doesn't sound like it would be a risk for HIV. A person can only become infected with HIV if body fluids that contain HIV passes into their blood stream. The main ways in which this happens are through unprotected sex (anal or vaginal sex without condoms) and sharing needles/syringes. So what you have described doesn't sound like this could have happened, and we haven't heard of any cases where this has happened. If you think getting another test will help you completely put your mind at ease, you could do that in a couple of months. But remember, what you've described does not sound like a risk for HIV, so this would be just for peace of mind. Even if you don't go for another test, you could talk to the doctor about your worries about this so they can help you with that.
Almost dead because of all these symptoms.4months back i had done few sec cunninlingus with a sex worker.felt bitter in taste and stopped suddenly.protected vaginal sex and didnt notice weather the condom is broken or not. Symptoms on 5th weeks - *a small cold sore appeared outside the lip-lasted for a week and went away(had vitamin B med) *muscle pain *small small pimple on face and chest *burning sensation near mouth Hiv rapid test-negative 10th week- *tingling and prickling sensation(only right side) *fordyce spots on lips *blurred vision(right eye) *terry\'nail-red band(all nails) *pain under right arm *swollen node on neck(under jaw)usually it can be felt only when you get cold. *stiff neck(right side) During this time i took these medicines(CEFUTIC 500MG,COVIR 400MG,ROXONIN 60,ORAHERP FOR L A BD) Hiv rapid test at month 12-negative VDRL-negative 12week Had (ATM-500,ACECLOPLUS,TELEKAST-L) HIV 1 and 2 rapid test at week 14-negative VDRL-negative Other blood test-normal week 15 Sypmtoms continues and had (Nervit forte,oxidon plus) doc prescribed these medicnes for a month.aftre taking these medicine i got yellow coated tounge.for that he gave (T.AF 150mg,candid mouth paint,T.Actilife) Week 16 Sore throat,cold,cough (had T.Gabantin 300mg,T.Fex 180mg,T.Aziclass 250) Pain under ear(felt like an obstricle is placed inside my ear.and felt so heavy inside.but i can hear everythng properly(right ear)..and stiff neck continues.(took Hifenac p tab,pantop 40mg) Hiv 1 &2 (ELISA) -non reactive HBS AG(ELISA)-non reactive HCV(ELISA) -non reactive ULTRASOUND ABDOMEN-Liver,G.B,spleen,pancreas,kidneys,urinary bladder,prostate-NORMAL Week 20-current problems *reoccurent sore throat,cold and cough *teeth mark on the side of tounge *yellow coating on tounge *red blood veins on both eyes(cmv?) *i can feel small peanut size lymp nodes on my elbow,biceps,thighs,stomach,hip and back.(most worrisome) *tinnitus(really worried about this) Ps-2008 i had done sinus operation 1year back i tested pos for lyphoma.(during that time i can feel some small hard nodes on my biceps and stomach). My question is 1-Do you think i am hiv infected? 2-any other std?if so,what all? 3-why all these symptoms one another one? 4-i tested negative,is that bcz my body doesnt produce enough antibodies? 5-heard that in some cases the window period is 6months(comp immune system).what does that mean?do i have a weak immune system because of lyphoma?is that the reason am taking lot of time to produce antibodies? 6-if it is not hiv then why this lymp nodes, terry\'s nails,trush and all other symptoms came.? 7-do i need to test at 6month mark? 8-do you think this symptoms could be a sign of thyroid,diabetes,tumor or lyphoma cancer? Actually am 24yrs old and it was my first sexual intercourse.am really worried about all these symptoms.if it is hiv i have to take proper medicines without informing others..bcz my family very relegious and have a good name in the society.i dont want to destroy that.it will be the first and last mistake i have done in my life.i know there is no use of telling this now.everyday am dying with a guilty feeling.i know am hiv positive.but i just want to hear your openion too.please give reply.sorry for the poor english and long post.
Although this is a website for gay men and other men who have sex with men in Australia, we can say what you described would be considered a very low risk for HIV. The vaginal sex you had was protected (with condoms), so that is considered safe for HIV. And oral sex is considered a very low risk for HIV. And we are not aware of anybody getting HIV from doing cunnilingus. Some STIs can be transmitted even when condoms are used, so if you haven't already asked your doctor to test you for other STIs, you could do that next time you go. Even if you had an STI, you can treat them easily. We are not doctors here, so unfortunately we can't comment on your symptoms specifically or what they could be. We can say that if someone does contract HIV, shortly afterwards they may experience what is called a seroconversion illness, though not everyone gets it. It is a flu-like sickness, with symptoms that can range from mild to severe and may include fever, rashes, a sore throat, and swollen glands. Although it varies from person to person, if someone has these symptoms they generally occur between 2 - 6 weeks after exposure to HIV. However, it is important to remember that these symptoms are also common to many other illnesses, such as the flu. So it is likely these symptoms you are describing could be from something else. HIV tests have what is called a window period. This is the time it can take if someone becomes infected with HIV until a test can detect the infection. The window period can vary depending on the test. In Australia, most laboratory tests can detect if someone has HIV within six weeks of exposure, but rapid HIV tests and some laboratory tests can take up to three months. So in Australia, if you had a negative HIV test result three months after the event (and had no other risk events in this time) it would be considered negative, regardless of which test someone takes. We can’t comment on tests in other countries unfortunately, and you will need to check with your doctor what the window period of the tests you have had, but we would expect that this would be similar. We are not aware of the window period being longer if someone has a weak immune system, but you could confirm this with your doctor. But remember, it doesn't sound like you would have HIV, as the tests are confirming. I understand it is upsetting for you, but it really does not sounds like you would have HIV. But it sounds like you may like to see a doctor to see what else these symptoms could be. And you can talk to the doctor about your concerns about HIV then too. If you have a sexual health clinic (or another doctor that specialises in sexual health and HIV) in your area, I think they would be helpful for you to reassure you.
Hi there...I have met a guy who is perfect. He is HIV positive and his viral load is undetectable. I am relatively new to the gay scene and am freaked out by disease. We made out pretty heavy last night and when I got home I noticed a small cut/sore on my tongue. Am I gonna be OK?
Hi there, and congrats on the guy. What you've described doesn't sound like a risk for HIV. HIV can't be passed on through kissing. A person can only become infected with HIV if body fluids that contain HIV (blood, semen, pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), anal mucus, vaginal secretions and breast milk) passes into their blood stream. The main ways in which this happens are through unprotected sex (anal or vaginal sex without condoms) and sharing needles/syringes. So even if you had an open cut in your mouth, HIV can't be passed on with saliva.

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