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HI, I WENT TO MASSAGE IN MELBOURNE AND LATER I FOUND OUT THAT THEY ARE NOT REGISTERED AND ILLEGAL. MASSAGE LADY RUB MY PENUS IN HER GENITAL, LABIA AREA AND I THINK I WOULD HAVE CONTACTED HER FLUID IN TO MY PENUS. ALSO I TOUCHED HER VAGINA AND GOT THE FLUID ON MY FINGERS. FINALLY SHE HAVE ME A HAND JOB. THERE WAS NO PENETRATION AT ALL. I AM WORRIED I PUT MYSELF AT RISK FOR HIV. PLEASE HELP ME ON THIS. I AM REALLY WORRIED.
Hi. From what you've described, that doesn't really sound like a risk for HIV. However, we would always recommend anyone that is sexually active to get regular tests for all STIs (including HIV), just to be part of a ongoing routine. So if you are still worried, you could talk to your doctor and ask for a test if this would put your mind at ease. You can search for places to get tested here: http://endinghiv.org.au/au/where-to-test/
Hi there, I\'ve participated in mutual masterbation with2 different guys at different times. My concern is that I have HSV1 and I don\'t recall having a severe outbreak- what is my hiv risk? Also my gums bleed abit and I deep kissed these guys- risk? I appreciate you helping out this insanely anxious guy!
Hi. What you've described doesn't sound like a risk for HIV. HIV can't be transmitted through masturbation. It also can't be transmitted through things like kissing, massage, handjobs, or hugging. If you are anxious about particular event, it may be worth having a chat to a doctor at a sexual health clinic or a doctor that specialises in sexual health to have a chat about your concerns, so they can put your mind at ease. You can search for clinics in your area on our website here: http://endinghiv.org.au/au/where-to-test/
Hi guys. Recently I engaged in mutual masturbation several times. We didn\'t ejaculate however, we were masturbating each other. I am afraid if the other guys had precum/blood/sperm on their hand and it transferred to my penis when they were masturbating me. Is there any risks for HIV? Because HIV is transferred through bodily fluid right? Is there any risk? Do i need to get testing due to this? Also, a guy put his finger between my butt cheeks. He didn\'t reach the anus, but just insert one finger between my butt cheeks. Is there any risks for HIV transmission? I am afraid if his finger had blood or cum. His hand was outside before that. After he did that, I quickly pulled up my pants. Please access my risk. I am so scared that I have been thinking about suicide,
Hi. We aren’t doctors here, but based on what you’ve said, this would not be a risk for HIV. HIV can be passed on through bodily fluids (if the person is HIV positive), but these fluids need to be able to enter another person’s bloodstream (such as through anal or vaginal sex without a condom). If you remain worried, you could get an HIV test if you think it would help put you mind at ease. You can search for testing services in your area here: http://endinghiv.org.au/au/where-to-test/ But remember this would be just to put you mind at ease, not because what you’ve described would be a risk for HIV. You could also talk to the doctor about your fears. If you are thinking about suicide, you can contact QLife, a telephone and online counselling and referral service for LGBTI people. It operates 3:00pm to midnight every day in each state around Australia. You can contact QLife at https://qlife.org.au/ or call 1800 184 527, during these times. For outside of these times, you can call Lifeline Australia on 13 11 24. This is an Australian service that provides people having a personal crisis with support and suicide prevention services. The phone number operates 24 hours a day. More information about Lifeline Australia can be found here: https://www.lifeline.org.au/ You can also call a Suicide Callback Service on 1300 659 467.
Hi once again thanks for your services I am passing through deep trouble I have performed oral sex with male sex worker and it was unprotected I receive oral from him then I performed anal with condom after 1 week feeling fever my arm skin is burning feeling hot but temp is normal plz help me
Hi. We aren't doctors here so can't comment on specific symptoms you may have. You would need to speak to your doctor about these. But we can say that oral sex is considered to be very low risk for HIV transmission. There is potentially a risk to the person performing oral sex if they have abrasions or ulcers in their mouths, or an STI in their throat, and this is increased if they get cum in their mouth. However, this is still classed as a low risk. And we are not aware of any documented cases of HIV transmission to the person receiving oral sex. And if you had anal sex with a condom, this would be classed as safe for HIV.
Hi I have done unprotected oral and protected anal with guy of unknown status now I am feeling fever headache tested but it is showing negative
Oral sex is considered to be very low risk for HIV transmission. There is potentially a risk to the person performing oral sex if they have abrasions or ulcers in their mouths, or an STI in their throat, and this is increased if they get cum in their mouth. However, this is still classed as a low risk. And if you had protected sex, this wouldn't be classed as a risk for HIV. For HIV tests, it can take some time for a test to detect HIV if someone has become HIV positive. This time is called the window period. Here in Australia, most laboratory tests (where blood is drawn and sent by your doctor to the laboratory) use 4th generation lab tests that test for both antibodies to HIV and antigen (the virus itself), and can detect if someone has HIV within 6 weeks of exposure. Rapid HIV tests, and some laboratory tests that use older technology, can take up to three months. But remember, oral sex is classed as a very low risk and protected anal sex wouldn't be classed as a risk for HIV.
If I was to receive a handjob and women\'s menstral blood came into contact with my penis during the handjob am I at risk of catching HIV and the like?
Hi. This is a site for gay men and other men who have sex with men, so you are best to speak to your doctor about this. We do know that HIV can be found in menstrual blood, if the person is HIV positive, but you would need to check with your doctor about if this particular situation would be a risk.
deep kissing and HIV
HIV can't be transmitted through kissing. It also can't be transmitted through things like massage, masturbation, handjobs, or hugging.
Two weeks ago I was anally penetrated, momentarily, by about 1-2inches, unprotected- and completely by surprise. I freaked and went to the ED an hour later and started PEP (truvada). One week ago the other guy tested positive to HIV (apparently was negative on previous test 3 months earlier) What are the chances of me contracting HIV from this very brief encounter? Really stressed about the whole thing.
Hi. We aren't doctors so we can't give specific medical advice in terms of the chances of acquiring HIV from the encounter, although as you say it was only very brief. But it's great that you've started PEP so quickly. For PEP to be effective it needs to be started within 72 hours (within 24 hours is best), and taken for the full 28 days, so you've got onto that really quickly. For more info about PEP you can visit http://getpep.info/. If you are anxious about things, and want to about the chances of acquiring HIV from the encounter, you could talk to your doctor or a sexual health clinic. Or if you want to speak to someone about how you're feeling about it, you could speak to Q Life: www.qlife.org.au Free call: 1800 184 527, or contact your local organisations for support or referrals at www.endinghiv.org.au/au/aids-councils/
Im 32 and I had unprotected sex with massage therapist in Thailand it was my first time ever it last only for 30mins I\'m married and worried about my risk I asked the girl if she has HIV and she said she test every month and she is safe please answer this I\'m worried
Hi. Although this is an Australian website for gay men and men who have sex with men, we can say that getting regular tests for all STIs (including HIV) is a good idea for anyone that is sexually active, just as part of a routine. If you have had unprotected sex, it is a good idea to go to a doctor or sexual health clinic to get tested so you know. HIV tests can take some time to detect HIV after someone might have been exposed to it, but your doctor or sexual health clinic will be able to talk to you about that and when to test to get a conclusive result.
Hi I am from India had unprotected sex with chicken (Beastality) will I get hiv
If you are concerned about a potential HIV risk, you can ask a doctor about what the risk is. You can also ask them for sexual health check (tests for all STIs including HIV). You can find clinics and doctors in your area here: http://endinghiv.org.au/au/where-to-test/
So yesterday I have visited an erotic massage. At the beggining I lay down on the bed and he massage me with oil all over my back. Later on, he massage my penis and did handjob until my sperm comes out. We did hugged tightly in a nude situation, however we did\'n\'t had sex nor oral sex together and not even a kiss. Likewise we both don\'t wore condom. So my quetion is, \
Hi. What you've described would not be a risk for HIV. You can't get HIV from things like massage, masturbation, handjobs, kissing, or hugging.
Dear Sir/Madam, I am from India. The other day I met a gay man in his 50s and I started playing with his penis. I masturbated him with my thumb and index finger for a few minutes and I felt something sticky which I suppose was his precum. He did not ejaculate but I freaked out when I learned that there was a small cut on the side of my thumb which was due to cutting the skin with a nail cutter from hang nail. The cut was 24 hrs old but it was deep that it hurt a lot and I could see the red inner skin. More to my worry it was oozing liquid so you can say it was still fresh and wet. Taking all this into account, if his precum landed on my fresh wet oozing cut and if this guy was HIV + what are the chances of me getting infected. I am getting paranoid thinking about this whole scene over and over again. What worries me is that since the wound was oozing is it not a direct pathway to the inner bloodstream? After about 30 mins from the incident I pressed this wound hard to check and when I did so few tiny drops of blood came out too. So I would like you to asses my risk regarding this whole incident. I am going nuts thinking about the scene over and over and simply cannot get it out of my mind.
Hi. We aren't doctors here, so we aren't able to provide medical advice. And although this is an Australian site, we can say we're not aware of anyone becoming infected with HIV in the way you described. If it is making you anxious though, it may be worth going to have a chat with a doctor, so they can talk to you about it. If possible, it may be best to talk to a doctor or clinic that does a lot of work in sexual health to help give you peace of mind. They may suggest a HIV test - just to help give you that peace of mind – they will talk to you about the best timing for this. We would always recommend anyone that is sexually active to get regular tests for all STIs (including HIV) anyway, just as part of a routine.
Does nipple play (licking sucking biting - not too hard) present a risk for either guy ? Or is this safe like masturbating one another ?Thanks
Playing with nipples is considered safe and doesn't present a risk for either guy. A person can only become infected with HIV if body fluids that contain HIV (blood, semen, pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), anal mucus, vaginal secretions and breast milk) passes into their blood stream.
I am from India. The other day I met a gay man in his 50s and I started playing with his cock. I masturbated him with my thumb and index finger for a few minutes and I felt something sticky which I suppose was his precum. He did not ejaculate but I freaked out when I learned that there was a small cut on the side of my thumb which was due to cutting the skin with a nail cutter from hang nail. The cut was 24 hrs old but it was deep that it hurt a lot and I could see the red inner skin. More to my worry it was oozing liquid so you can say it was still fresh and wet. Taking all this into account, if his precum landed on my fresh wet oozing cut and if this guy was HIV + what are the chances of me getting infected. I am getting paranoid thinking about this whole scene over and over again. What worries me is that since the wound was oozing is it not a direct pathway to the inner bloodstream? After about 30 mins from the incident I pressed this wound hard to check and when I did so few tiny drops of blood came out too. So I would like you to asses my risk regarding this whole incident.
Hi. We aren't doctors here, and although this is an Australian site, we can say we're not aware of anyone becoming infected with HIV in the way you described. If it is making you anxious though, it may be worth going to have a chat with a doctor, so they can talk to you about it. They may suggest a HIV test just to give you peace of mind – they will talk to you about the best timing for this. We would always recommend anyone that is sexually active to get regular tests for all STIs (including HIV) anyway, just as part of a routine. If possible, it may be best to talk to a doctor or clinic that does a lot of work in sexual health.
I had sex with a man. I was the one inserting. The condom broke during sex and I had not realized it until afterwards. He says he is clean and was tested a few months ago with no sign of HIV. What is my risk and what precautions should I take in order to make sure I am not infected?
There is a lower risk for HIV if you are the insertive partner, than if you are the receptive partner, but it is still possible. If this happened less than 72 hours ago, there is something called PEP (Post-Exposure Prophylaxis) you can take to help prevent the chance of becoming HIV. You can go to www.getpep.info/get-pep-now/ to find out where to get it (and to talk to someone about the risk). Some states and territories also have PEP phone lines you can call for this (for the states and territories that have PEP phone lines, they are listed on those pages on the website). And you can go to www.getpep.info/learn-more/what-is-pep/ for more information about what PEP is and how it works. If this happened more than 72 hours ago, you can find clinics and doctors on this website (www.endinghiv.org.au/au/where-to-test/) to talk to someone about what happened and to organise the best time for testing.
Hi, I had protected Vaginal sex with sex worker a week ago and 2 days after exposure I had some discomfort in penis and a mild pain which almost reduced when I had too much fluids and canberry juice. But I am feeling extremely tired from 2 days. I am not sure why. I have no fever and I am having little cold which is very very mild. I am on my 9th day now. I could only see these symptoms. I am extremely worried about this fatigue. Please let me know if i have a chance of HIV
Hello. Although this is a website for gay men and other men who have sex with men, we can give you some general information. If you used a condom, then this would be considered safe in terms of a risk for HIV. In terms of the symptoms you’ve described, we are not doctors here so we can't comment on those specifically. However, from what you've described, it doesn't sound like symptoms or the timing associated with a recent HIV infection. If someone does contract HIV, shortly afterwards they may experience flu-like symptoms that can range from mild to severe. Although it varies from person to person, if someone has these symptoms, they generally occur between 2 - 6 weeks after exposure to HIV. However, it is important to remember that these symptoms are also common to many other illnesses and infections unrelated to HIV, such as the flu. However, as I mentioned earlier if you used a condom, then this would not be considered a risk for HIV. If you are concerned about your fatigue, you may like to see your doctor about this to see what else it could be. You could also talk to your doctor about your concerns about HIV for some more peace of mind. Although from what you have said, it doesn't sound like a risk for HIV, regular full sexual health check-ups (tests for all STIs) is a good idea for any sexually active person - just as part of an ongoing routine. So you could have a chat to your doctor about STI tests as well.
Hi, I am a 38 year old gay man from India. Last night I hooked up with a 55 year old gay man whose HIV status is unknown. We did not have anal or oral. I touched his penis to give him a hand job but as I held his penis, some of his precum came in contact with my index finger...so I quickly rubbed it off with a cloth...nothing more we did other than hugging and caressing....but next morning I saw that I had a very tiny cut on the side of my thumb about the size of a pinhole...but what freaked me out was it hurt as I pressed the cut and more to add my worst fears, I could see the red tender shiny skin inside. I am getting nuts now thinking what if his precum would have gotten into my wound though I am not sure if his precum touched my thumb? So I would like to know if I was at risk? is there any reported case of anyone being infected n such a manner? Do I need to wait till 3 months to get tested? I am going crazy as I simply cannot put this incident behind my mind and it\'s beginning to take over my life. What worries me the worst is my hangnail wound was red and wet shiny till the next morning and it hurt when I pressed so I am terrified it could have been more fresher the day before at the time of my encounter. Please help.
Hi there. Sorry to hear you’ve been so anxious with this. Although this is an Australian website for gay men and other men who have sex with men, we can say that what you have described does not sound like a risk for HIV. We have certainly never heard of any reported cases of anyone becoming infected this way. If you do want to get tested for peace of mind, HIV tests have what is called a window period. This is the time it can take from if someone becomes HIV positive to when the test can detect it, and this time can vary depending on the test. Here in Australia, most laboratory tests (where blood is drawn and sent by your doctor to the laboratory) can detect if someone has HIV within six weeks of exposure, but rapid HIV tests and some laboratory tests can take up to three months. So you would need to check what the window period is for the test you had for that peace of mind. But remember that what you have described does not sound like a risk for HIV. It may be worth talking to your doctor about your concerns to help you with feeling anxious about this.
On July 10th 2014 I had sex with girl -un protected oral ,she given blow job around 7 mnts and protected vaginal sex also. August 21st I had flew with dry cough and throat pain after the antibiotic flew cured but cough and throat pain continued around 40 days. Later I had another symptoms in sore tongue and white patches also joint pain which is still continuing. I have done CBC,ANA test all are normal. Is there nay chance of HIV while the above sex.Does lymphocyte range will show any abnormalities ,I don\'t have any other symptoms like swollen lymph nodes ,fever...pls answer me ,I am not sleeping since last months,totally tension.
Although this is an Australian website for gay men and other men who have sex with men, we can say that oral sex is considered to be very low risk for HIV transmission. There is potentially a risk to the person performing oral sex if they have abrasions or ulcers in their mouths, or an STI in their throat, and this is increased if they get cum in their mouth. However, we are not aware of any documented cases of HIV transmission to the person receiving oral sex, as you did. And protected vaginal sex is considered safe for HIV. We aren't doctors here, so we can't comment on your symptoms specifically or the tests you've had, but what we can say that if someone does contract HIV, shortly afterwards they may experience what is called a seroconversion illness, though not everyone gets it. It is a flu-like sickness, with symptoms that can range from mild to severe and may include fever, rashes, a sore throat, and swollen glands. Although it varies from person to person, if someone has these symptoms, they generally occur between 2 - 6 weeks after exposure to HIV. However, it is important to remember that these symptoms are also common to many other illnesses, such as the flu. However, what you have described does not sound like a risk for HIV. If you are still concerned, you could go to your doctor about your symptoms to see what else could be causing them. You could also talk about your concerns about HIV while you were there.
Thank you for taking a moment to help answer my question, as it is very important to me. I know you get many per day. I am currently in therapy for issues relating to anxiety, and my therapist has asked me that when an issue brings me anxiety, to try and learn as much about that thing as possible. In following her advice, I am hoping you can help me with something that has caused me sleepless nights of late. I hope you can provide me the most complete answer as possible. I do have a fear of HIV. I am not sure when it began, but it has been something I have dealt with in the past (years ago I had unprotected sex with a one-night stand and it really scared me after multiple tests. I think there is trauma in my fears from that experience of being tested, but I haven\'t worried in awhile after being tested before my marriage. Anyway, my recent fear comes after two moments (one that occurred yesterday) and one that occurred a few months ago: 1. The one from yesterday occurred when I received a non-sexual massage from a massage therapist. The massage was full body, however it was not sexual at all (nothing below the waist and above the quads). I did get my back and shoulders rubbed heavily and I do have pretty bad acne on my back. I don\'t believe there was any active bleeding pimples (but I do have \"reddish\" pimple marks that look like skin that is very thin and delicate and maybe could bleed with pressure). I only worry because I did notice afterward she had a minor cut on her hand (not active bleeding but like a somewhat newish cut). She also discussed during our session that she was a recovering drug user (which may have sparked my anxiety more when I saw the cut). Is there any chance her cut on her hand could spread HIV through the reddish pimples on my back? Or any other way through massage? 2. The second instance came, also at a massage envy, when I was burned with a hot towel during massage. It was burned to the point where it ultimately scabbed (so I\'m not sure if that means it was bleeding or open to the blood stream at some point). I know she was rubbing that area hard with her bare hands, but I do not know if she had a cut ... though my mind brings me to the assumption that she did for fear of worst-case scenario. Thank you so much for taking the time to bring a strong answer for me. I know you are an expert in this field and I truly trust your response. I thank you for helping me out and bless you for all that you do to help people better understand HIV.
Hi there. I'm sorry to hear you've been so anxious about this, but good to hear you are seeing someone to help you. Although this is an Australian website for gay men and other men who have sex with men, we can say that what you have described doesn't sound like it would be a risk for HIV. A person can only become infected with HIV if body fluids that contain HIV passes into their blood stream. The main ways in which this happens are through unprotected sex (anal or vaginal sex without condoms) and sharing needles/syringes. So what you have described doesn't sound like this could have happened, and we haven't heard of any cases where this has happened.
Hi, Yesterday I had an encounter of protected anal sex (I wore a condom and was the \"top\"). Have you heard of anyone getting HIV under these conditions? Should I test in 3 months? Thanks.
Sex with a condom is considered safe for HIV, so what you've described would not be considered a risk to test for specifically. We would always recommend though, that any sexually active person to get regular full sexual health check-ups (tests for all STIs including HIV), just as part of a routine.

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