Condoms & Lube

Condoms

Condoms can prevent infected fluids passing from one partner to the other when fucking. This makes anal sex using a condom and water based or silicon based lube safe for both the top and the bottom. If used properly condoms are very reliable. However, they can occasionally break or slip off. When fucking it’s a good idea to check from time to time that the condom is on, there’s enough lube and that it is still intact.

A matter of preference

There are lots of different condoms available for men who like different things – super thin, ultra tough, slimmer fitting, flared, studded or ribbed condoms, flavoured, even condoms that vibrate or glow in the dark. The condoms that are sold in Australia have to go through stringent testing in order for them to be allowed to be sold, so whichever condom you use is just a matter of preference.

Similarly, there are many types of water based or silicon based lubricants, so shop around for the one that you like best.

For more advice on the best and most comfortable ways to use condoms, you can visit Know the Risk

Where to find condoms

Condoms are available for free in many gay bars and at all sex on premises venues in NSW. To find out where to find free condoms across NSW, click here.

They’re also widely available for purchase from literally thousands of commercial outlets including supermarkets, convenience stores, petrol stations, adult shops etc and also online from a wide variety of Australian websites. A few of which are listed below.

Lube

Generally choosing the best lube is a matter of preference. However, when using condoms it’s highly recommended to use water or silicone based lubes as they prevent condoms from breaking. Not using any lube or using oil based lubricants (including Crisco and butter) wear down the condoms and makes them easier to break.

Generally, water based lubes are cheaper and don’t stain the sheets, but you have to use more. Silicone lubes, on the other hand, are generally more expensive, arguably smoother, sometimes can stain your sheets, but you use less of them and they last longer. Silicone/water hybrids are safe to use, too – They’re meant to give you the best of both worlds. The best is to try some of them out (and try the flavoured ones while you’re at it!).

How to use a condom

Condoms are highly effective when used correctly. We’ve set out some steps to follow when using condoms – it may seem like a lot but it quickly becomes second nature!

  1. Check the expiry date! Also make sure the condom is fresh and that it hasn’t been stored for long periods in warm places or in direct sunlight.
  2. Open the packet carefully. Push the condom into the opposite corner of the package from the corner that you are tearing. Use care if you’re using your teeth or nails when opening the package so as not to rip the condom.
  3. Make sure it is the right way up. Be sure that the roll of latex is on the outside, not the inside.
  4. Squeeze the air out of the tip of the condom.
  5. Don’t put a lot of lube on the dick before rolling on the condom because then it is likely to slide off.
  6. Roll the condom all the way down to the base of the dick.
  7. Apply lots of water based lube to the outside of the condom (and inside the other person’s arse).
  8. Hold on to the condom at the base of your dick as you pull out. Otherwise it may stay inside the other person’s arse.
  9. Tie it in a knot and put it in the bin.

If you are a more visual learner, watch porn star Brent Corrigan showing you how to put on a condom by clicking on the image below:

Tips and Techniques

Some handy tips for using condoms are:

  • Have them in an easy to access place so you don’t need to break the mood to get them
  • Plan ahead so that you know you have some available
  • Make putting it on part of foreplay. Remember confidence is sexy!
  • Use plenty of lube as this generally makes it better for both partners
  • Reapply lube regularly if you are having a long session
  • You can pick up safe sex packs (condoms and lube sachets) at many gay bars and venues

Some guys have trouble staying hard whilst using condoms. Here are some handy hints on staying hard.

  • Place a bit of lube on the head of the penis (but not the shaft) before putting on the condom. This will help increase sensitivity.
  • Wear a cockring to help stay hard before putting on a condom. Have a condom handy when having sex so it doesn’t involve a break in the action.
  • Get your partner to place the condom on you and make it a fun part of sex.

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