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Ending HIV is a sexual health campaign for gay, bisexual and other guys who have sex with guys, based in NSW, Australia. As such, we prioritise questions received in relation to these communities. If you are living overseas or in another state, there may be limits to the support we can provide. While our peers are highly knowledgeable, they can’t give specific medical advice. Whatever your concern, always seek the advice of a doctor or trained medical professional you trust.

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I had sex with condom and there was no breakage, the first time was around April last year and the last time was towards June ending. But I discovered that she is positive, I have tested myself but the results keep showing negative. I tested it early this month of February still negative can I now relax or test again

Hi there, thanks for your question. As you have used a condom and you've tested outside of the window period (12 weeks after the potential exposure) your results should be considered accurate and conclusive. This will not take into account if there has been a risk of transmission since then. If you’ve continued to be sexually active, you will need to get tested again. We recommend to people who are sexually active to get tested for HIV and STIs 4 times a year (every 3 months) with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. You can read more about HIV testing and the window period on our website here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/all-about-testing/

I had unprotected sex on September 3,2020 with a partner that am not sure of his status I get tested for hiv using the oral quick rapid advance test 3 months and 5 months after exposure ,does my results conclusive,please answer me ?

Hi there, thanks for your question. Your HIV test results are accurate and conclusive if you were tested outside of the window period (12 weeks after the potential exposure). This will not take into account if there has been a risk of transmission since then. If you’ve continued to be sexually active, you will need to get tested again. We recommend to people who are sexually active to get tested for HIV and STIs 4 times a year (every 3 months) with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. You can read more about HIV testing and the window period on our website here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/all-about-testing/

Is there a need to be sufficient amount of precum to be at risk if you give oral sex? (And you have a small ulcer in your mouth?)

Hi there, thanks for your question. Oral sex is very low risk for HIV transmission. This risk can increase if there is cumming in the mouth and cuts and sores are present, though this risk is still considered quite low regardless if there is precum in the mouth or not. The risk for other STIs to be transmitted during sex can be different. We recommend to anyone who is sexually active to test for HIV and STIs four times a year (every 3 months) with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. If you live in NSW, you can find the nearest place to get tested here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/where-to-get-tested/.

Hi I had unprotected sex with a lady whose status is unknown. this was 10/02/2021. But now my question is which day is best for check the HIV in lab.and which test is give a better result soon pls pls answer me

Hi there thanks for your question. It takes time for HIV to be detected in the body. Most people who’ve been exposed to HIV will test positive within one month after exposure, but a small number of people take up to three months. This period is known as ‘the window period’. The window period is the time between HIV infection and the production of antibodies; a lot of HIV transmission occurs because guys don’t know that they have HIV developing in the window period. So, if you test negative at three months after your potential exposure to HIV, it will almost always mean you do not have HIV, if there has been no risk of transmission in the meantime. However, if you’ve continued to be sexually active then you will need to get tested again. We always recommend confirming the window period of your tests with your provider. If you’re getting tested within the window period, you will need to get tested again after the period for a conclusive result for your HIV status. We recommend to people who are sexually active to get tested for HIV and STIs 4 times a year (every 3 months) with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. You can read more about HIV testing and the window period on our website here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/all-about-testing/

Does hiv antibodies disappear after some years

Hi, Thanks for your question. HIV antibodies will remain in your system after an HIV infection. However, with the effective HIV treatments that are available today, people living with HIV can suppress the viral load of HIV in their bodies to such low levels, we call it ‘undetectable viral load’ (UVL). Although this is not a cure, people living with HIV who sustain a UVL have much better health outcomes and cannot transmit HIV to a HIV negative person. Even though the viral load of HIV in the body becomes detectable, the antibodies can still be detected. You can read more about UVL on our website here: https://endinghiv.org.au/treat-early/about-undetectable/. If you have more sexual health questions and you live in NSW, you can call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

Had oral sex, went down on a girl 4 weeks ago and hiv lab test is negative and also negative for all std’s. I also had protected sex 6-8 weeks prior to that oral sex episode. So it is like 10-12 weeks by the time i had that test done. So should i be worried still? And do i need more tests? No symptoms at any stage till now

Hi, Thanks for your question. Oral sex is considered very low risk for HIV transmissions. However, this can be different for other STIs. If you used condoms as your form of protection and you used them correctly, they are highly effective in preventing HIV transmissions. Tests for HIV can have a window period of up to 3 months (12 weeks). This is the period of time it takes for a reactive result to appear in a test after possible exposure to HIV. If you got tested 12 weeks after your possible exposure to HIV, then your negative result would be conclusive for your HIV status. However, if you’ve continued to be sexually active or you’re unsure about when your last exposure was before your test, we would recommend getting tested again. If you have more questions around your test, we recommend contacting the medical centre that provided you your test. We recommend to people who are sexually active to build sexual health check-ups into their routine, and get tested for HIV and STIs 4 times a year (every 3 months) with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. That way you always know your status and are on top of your health. If you have more sexual health questions and you live in NSW, you can call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

I did a CMIA METHOD HIV Ag/Ab test post exposure 90days and my result is non-reactive ,can I carry on life without worrying or a re-test..?

Your HIV test results are accurate and conclusive if you were tested outside of the window period (12 weeks after the potential exposure). This will not take into account if there has been a risk of transmission since then. If you’ve continued to be sexually active, you will need to get tested again. We recommend to people who are sexually active to get tested for HIV and STIs 4 times a year (every 3 months) with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. You can read more about HIV testing and the window period on our website here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/all-about-testing/

recently i had oral sex.... with a guy... although he didnt ejaculate on my mouth... bt my lip was slightly cut... without bleeding... just lip skin was torn.... do i have risk of hiv? also i have seen red bumps on my throat (as i was stress eating ice cream) i have slight pain on right shoulder.... no significant pain... bt sometimes i feel a slight pain on joints (not any specific joint) that last for 1-2 seconds.... please help me... 🙁 i dont want to die... not this early 🙁

Hi there, thanks for your question. Oral sex is very low risk for HIV transmission. This risk can increase if there is cumming in the mouth and cuts and sores are present as you have described, though this risk is still considered quite low. The risk for other STIs to be transmitted during oral sex can be different. We recommend to anyone who is sexually active to test for HIV and STIs four times a year (every 3 months) with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. If you live in NSW, you can find the nearest place to get tested here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/where-to-get-tested/. Symptoms for HIV can look very similar to other things. In terms of the slight pain you’re experiencing or the red bumps on your throat, if it is persistent and causing issues for you, we recommend consulting with your doctor for further medical advice and to see what might be happening with your body. The good news is that HIV is no longer a death sentence, and people who are diagnosed with HIV who go onto treatment can live long healthy lives, just like their HIV negative peers. If you are experiencing anxiety around HIV, we also recommend talking to a doctor or counsellor who specialises in HIV who can provide you with any information and support you may need. ACON also provides HIV counselling, which you can find here: https://www.acon.org.au/what-we-are-here-for/mental-health/#hiv-counselling. If you have more questions, you can also call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

I need to get some prep mediation??

Hi there, thanks for your question. It's great to hear you are interested in starting PrEP. If you want to start the first step is to book an appointment with your doctor and let them know you want to start on PrEP. Next they will ask you some questions, and if you are eligible they will run some tests to check your HIV status, check for other STIs and also your kidney health. Once this is complete they'll give you a script for PrEP. You can then buy your PrEP from either a in-person pharmacy or online through a repeatable source like those found on the PrEP Access Now website: https://www.pan.org.au/. You can learn more about PrEP and how to access it on our PrEP page here: https://endinghiv.org.au/stay-safe/prep/