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Ending HIV is a sexual health campaign for gay, bisexual and other guys who have sex with guys, based in NSW, Australia. As such, we prioritise questions received in relation to these communities. If you are living overseas or in another state, there may be limits to the support we can provide. While our peers are highly knowledgeable, they can’t give specific medical advice. Whatever your concern, always seek the advice of a doctor or trained medical professional you trust.

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I had unprotected sex 4 days ago where I topped. Today I have really swollen painful glands in my neck. Is it possible to get symptoms so soon after a HIV exposure?

Hi there, thanks for your question. Any potential symptoms of a HIV transmission are only likely to appear from 2 weeks after the risk exposure. However you should still get tested for HIV to confirm your status, you can read all about testing for HIV and the window period here: There are now lots of ways to protect yourself from HIV, so whenever you have sex use a form of protection, whether it's condoms, PrEP or undetectable - they're all good options. You can learn all about them on our site here: Painful swollen glands can be caused by a number of different things, so it would be best to seek the advice of a doctor to better detirmine their cause.

The other night I saw my old FWB, we were naked humping, and I cannot rememeber if it did, but his penis might have gone inside me for a couple of seconds. he did not ejaculate, is this a risk for HIV?

Hi there, thanks for your question. It has been shown that precum may carry HIV, and therefore it can be a cause for transmission even though the period may have been brief and there was no ejaculation. If you think you may have been exposed to HIV you can access PEP to prevent an infection. PEP is a course of HIV medication that when taken within 72 hours can prevent HIV infection. You can get PEP from sexual health clinics and hospital accident and emergency departments. Find the nearest location to you by contacting the NSW PEP Hotline on 1800 737 669 (1800 PEP NOW) or visit the Get PEP website at If you have further questions you can speak to a sexual heath nurse at the NSW Sexual Health Info Link on 1800 451 624, week days between 9 AM and 5:30 PM.

How you after you get infected by HIV ?

Hi there, thanks for your question. Individual symptoms of HIV vary from one person to another. If you have an active sex life or think you may have been exposed to HIV it is important to get tested. Many people experience severe flu-like symptoms which is your body’s natural response to the virus, also called the ‘seroconversion’ period, read more here:

I recently had protected intercourse with a man I met in a sex venue. I was the top. I realised afterwards that there was a small leak in the condom when I filled it with water to test it. Later I noticed a very small mark on the head of my penis which I’m pretty sure was caused by the pin sized hole on the condom. I am confident both the opening to my urethra and my retracted foreskin were well covered by the mainly intact Condon. Despite this I commenced PEP at 22 hours post exposure. I remain extremely worried and am wondering whether the fact that only a very small surface are of the head of my penis was exposed will make the likelihood of contracting HIV more unlikely??

Hi there, thanks for your question. You've done the right thing by starting PEP within 72 hours of your potential exposure. PEP taken in this time should be effective at preventing HIV transmission. Considering the scenario you have described, risk of transmission is low, though if you find yourself feeling particularly anxious you can get in touch with the NSW Sexual Health Infolink on 1800 450 624 and speak with a sexual health nurse.

sir . i had a non inserted sex encounter with a girl. i masturbated by keeping my penis in between her thighs with condom used and in between the condom broke..and i took it from her legs and she jerked the penis till i come...after that iam having pimples on my penis and some red marks on my thighs which went away after 1 month..pimples went away in two days after i applied some antibiotic cream..and then i had a itchy throat and went away in 2 days after i took some antibiotic....after 2 months of exposhure i took a antigen antibody 4th generation hiv test and the result is negative. doctor said the result is conclusive.but iam having flaky nose now and my preassure is very high now adays..please advise

Hi there, thanks for your question. Masturbation or rubbing you penis between your partners thighs would carry no risk of HIV transmission. If you are experiencing other symptoms we'd encourage you to seek the advice of a doctor to determine their cause.

I have sex with hiv positive but I don't relist my Spam inside her vagina and she didn't also released her Spam but when I released my Spam outside I went back but I don't spend 5 second and I removed it. then how possible for me to get hiv

Hi, Thanks for your question. If you have sex with a person who is HIV positive who is not on HIV treatment, and you didn’t use a HIV prevention strategy (includes condoms, pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) or undetectable viral load (UVL)) then there is risk for HIV transmission. We recommend contacting your doctor or health professional who specialises in HIV as soon as possible to discuss your risk, organise a test for HIV and STIs, and seek further medical advice. If you have further questions and live in NSW, you can call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

What if i have HIV and just found out but ejaculated on someones face the day before are they at risk?

Hi there, thanks for your question. The risk of HIV being transmitted by having sperm on your face would be considered zero risk. For HIV to be transmitted, it requires the bodily fluids (either blood, semen, anal or front hole fluids) of a person living with HIV who is not on effective treatment to enter the bloodstream of a HIV negative person. This is often through unprotected sexual intercourse or sharing injecting equipment. If you've recently been diagnosed HIV positive, we understand this could be a difficult situation for you at the moment and hope you are receiving support after your diagnosis. It is important for you to access HIV treatment as soon as possible, which would provide you with greater health benefits. The earlier you start treatment the better. People living with HIV who are on effective treatment can also suppress the viral load of HIV in their bodies to such a low level that we call it ‘undetectable.’ People living with HIV with an ‘undetectable viral load’ (UVL) cannot transmit HIV to another person. You can access HIV treatment by getting in touch with your GP, a sexual health clinic or hospital. You can read more about HIV treatment and UVL on our website here: ACON also provides may HIV support services for people who have recently been diagnosed. This includes HIV counselling and one-on-one peer support, which connects you with other HIV positive people. ACON’s HIV support programs also provide free workshops called Genesis, which is a safe, confidential and supportive space for newly diagnosed guys. You can read more about ACON’s HIV Support on their website here: If you would like to find out more, you can also get in touch at (02) 9206 2000.

If a women have HIV and i first slept with her is it possibly for me to get HIV from her?

Hi there, thanks for your question. If you and your partner did not use either condoms, PrEP or an Undetectable Viral Load to protect yourselves from HIV, then there may have been risk of HIV transmission. If you think have been exposed to HIV in the last 72 hours then you might be able to access PEP, a short course of HIV medication that can prevent HIV. You can learn all about PEP and how to access it here: If it's been longer than 72 hours since your potential exposure, then the best thing to do will be to get tested for HIV. Your result will be within the window period, so it's recommended that you test again at 3 months after the potential exposure to confirm the result. We recommend any guy who is sexually active to get tested for HIV once every three months.

Does the fever hit extremely hard with sore throat and what does the rash look like

Hi, thanks for your question. While a fever, sore throat and rash can be symptoms of HIV and seroconversion, it could also be caused by any number of ailments. We would highly recommend that you visit your local doctor or sexual health clinic and get a sexual health check-up. If you live in NSW and have any further questions, you can also call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.