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Ending HIV is a sexual health campaign for gay, bisexual and other guys who have sex with guys, based in NSW, Australia. As such, we prioritise questions received in relation to these communities. If you are living overseas or in another state, there may be limits to the support we can provide. While our peers are highly knowledgeable, they can’t give specific medical advice. Whatever your concern, always seek the advice of a doctor or trained medical professional you trust.

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Hey. I performed an oral sex to my partner nI’m sure He didn’t ejaculate in my mouth. But he ejaculated on my chest which had some cat stretches on from day before (not bleeding) I’m wondering if I’ve got infected. ( I don’t know his status but let’s assume he was unmediated positive) Thank you.

Hi, Thanks for your question. Oral sex is considered very low to no risk for HIV transmissions. However, this can be different for other STIs such as gonorrhoea or chlamydia, which are easily treatable. We recommend to anyone who is sexually active to have regular sexual health check-ups and to get tested for HIV and STIs 4 times a year. For HIV to be transmitted, it requires the bodily fluids (blood, semen, anal fluids or front hole/vaginal fluids) from a person living with HIV who is not on effective treatment to enter the bloodstream of a HIV negative person. Often this is through unprotected penetrative sex or sharing injecting equipment. Although there is a hypothetical risk of HIV possibly being transmitted in the situation you described, the chances of this happening is very unlikely. You can read more about HIV and how it’s transmitted on our website here: https://endinghiv.org.au/sti/hiv/. You can reduce the risk of HIV transmissions even further by considering effective HIV prevention strategies such as condoms, pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) or undetectable viral load (UVL). You can read more about those strategies here: https://endinghiv.org.au/stay-safe/. If you have further sexual health questions, you can call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

I had a very low risk HIV encounter and I've tested negative at 8 weeks with a 4th Gen test drawn from the veins and also at 12 weeks, 6 months and 8 months. also at 20 weeks with an HIV RNA test. why do I still have fear that I'm positive. I have dry mouth and joint pain.

Hi, Thanks for your question. Tests for HIV have a window period of between 2 weeks and 3 months depending on the test. This is the period of time it takes for a reactive result to appear in the test after possible exposure to HIV. Your test at 12 weeks, 20 weeks, 6 months and 8 months all sit outside the window period. This means that your negative results are conclusive for your HIV status. Having a dry mouth and joint pain can be a symptoms of many different things. If your symptoms are persisting, we recommend visiting your doctor and seeking further medical advice from them. If you’re also experiencing a lot of anxiety around HIV, you may also want to get in touch with a health professional or counsellor who specialises in HIV to provide you with any mental health support you may want to access. If you have further questions, you can also call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

Can someone pass on hsv 2 with a low probability in their blood? Can someone contact hiv if their sex partner has hiv an is on treatment?

Hi, Thanks for your question. Genital herpes (HSV-2) is transmitted through direct skin-to-skin contact, and is not present in blood. In regards to HIV, people living with HIV who are on treatment can supress the viral load of HIV in their bodies to such low levels, we call it ‘undetectable viral load’ (UVL). A HIV positive person with a UVL have much better health outcomes for themselves and they cannot transmit HIV to a HIV negative person. In fact, UVL is one of the most effective HIV prevention strategies along with condoms and pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP). You can read more about UVL on our website here: https://endinghiv.org.au/treat-early/about-undetectable/. If you have further questions, you can also call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

Is there chance to get HIV from Person who’s undetectable? Also i’ve started getting PEP (Truvada) in 1 hour from that moment when condom broke (he didn’t finished) and we stopped immediately. (I was on PrEP before and I miss 3-4 doses )

Hi, Thanks for your question. If a person living with HIV is on treatment and sustaining an undetectable viral load, the risk of HIV transmission is zero. You can read more about UVL on our website here: https://endinghiv.org.au/treat-early/about-undetectable/. However, it’s good to hear that you’re aware of post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP) and accessing it when you’ve been unsure of your risk for possible HIV exposure. We would recommend finishing your course of treatment, and if you need further medical advice you should consult with your doctor. If you have further sexual health questions, you can also call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

I slept with someone and discovered she's hiv positive, my most recent hiv test was done after 99 days, with a rapid finger prick test and came negative, I've been sick after 3 weeks I slept with her, having upset stomach, felt dizzy having swollen feet and had mouth ulcer, but as I tested negative after 99 days I don't know what's bothering me, I took medication, but no changes...

Hi, Thanks for your question. If your sexual partner is HIV positive, and she’s taking HIV medication and sustaining an undetectable viral load, the risk of her transmitting is zero. However, if she is not on treatment and you didn’t use another effective HIV prevention strategy (e.g. condoms or pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP)) then there may be risk for HIV transmission. Tests for HIV can have a window period of between 2 weeks and 3 months depending on the test. This is the period of time after possible exposure to HIV for a reactive result to appear in the test. We always recommend confirming with your test provider what their window periods are and if you need to get tested again for a conclusive result. Your HIV test at 99 days sits outside the window period. This means that your negative result is conclusive for your HIV status. Your symptoms can be caused by many different things. If your symptoms are persisting, we recommend consulting with your doctor or health professional who can provide you with further medical advice. If you have further sexual health questions, you can also call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

I had post partum hemarrage so they transfused one unit of red blood cells to me . Now I am worried about getting hiv please help me. I am feeling depressed

The blood used would have undergone tests to confirm that it’s safe before being used in the transfusion. If you are feeling worried about HIV transmissions, we recommend contacting the medical centre that conducted your transfusion to further discuss with them. If you’re feeling anxious or depressed and you’re needing someone to talk to, we recommend talking to your doctor or counsellor who specialises in HIV, so they can provide you with any mental support you may be looking for.

Hi sir good morning, I would like to know any chance to STD,STI,HIV from receiving the handjob in the massage parlour lady? Can you kindly explaine please?

Hi, Thanks for your question. The risk of HIV being transmitted through a hand job is zero. For other STIs, this can be different if hands have come into contact with infected bodily fluids and then around your genitals. However, these are easily treatable. We recommend to everyone who is sexually active to have regular sexual health check-ups with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. If you live in NSW, you can find the nearest place to get tested here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/where-to-get-tested/. If you have any more sexual health questions, you can call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

Hi, I have did sex with unknown boy. What is risk level

Hi, Thanks for your question. If you had anal or frontal penetrative sex with a person who’s HIV status is unknown and you did not use an effective HIV prevention strategy (condoms, pre-exposure prophylaxis or undetectable viral load), this would be considered high risk for HIV transmission. You can also find a Risk Calculator on our website here: https://endinghiv.org.au/stay-safe/risk-calculator/ If you have engaged in high risk sex and have possibly been exposed to HIV, you should consider post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP). PEP is 4 week course of anti-HIV treatment that people can take after possible exposure to HIV to prevent infection. PEP must be started within 72 hours of possible exposure for it to be effective and can be found at emergency hospital departments or at sexual health clinics. You can also go to the Get Pep website (https://www.getpep.info/) or call the PEP Hotline at 1800 737 669 (1800 PEP NOW) where you can talk to someone over the phone about your risk and where you can access PEP. We recommend seeking further medical advice from a doctor or health professional who specialises in HIV.

I had sex with a girl and during our encounter she started bleeding from her vagina I had a condom on tho can I still get HIV?

Hi, Thanks for your question. When used correctly, condoms with the proper lube are highly effective in preventing HIV transmissions. Although they are effective in preventing the transmission of many other STIs, there is always the risk of some STIs still being transmitted through sex even when a condom is being used. But that’s okay! Because many STIs are easily treatable. We recommend to people who are sexually active to have routine sexual health check-ups with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. By doing so, you can detect any STIs you may have and treat them earlier. If you live in NSW, you can find the nearest place to get tested for HIV and STIs here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/where-to-get-tested/ If you have more questions, you can also call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.