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Ending HIV is a sexual health campaign for gay, bisexual and other guys who have sex with guys, based in NSW, Australia. As such, we prioritise questions received in relation to these communities. If you are living overseas or in another state, there may be limits to the support we can provide. While our peers are highly knowledgeable, they can’t give specific medical advice. Whatever your concern, always seek the advice of a doctor or trained medical professional you trust.

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I had an oral sex with someone I met for the very first time and also deep kiss, but now am worried of being infected with STD and HIV please help.

Hi, Thanks for your question. Oral sex is considered very low to no risk for HIV transmissions. This risk can increase if there are cuts or sores in the mouth of the person giving oral sex and there’s cumming in the mouth. However, this risk is still considered low. However, the transmission of other STIs such as gonorrhoea or chlamydia can be different during oral sex. Often, these STIs can show no symptoms but are also easily treatable. We recommend to anyone who is sexually active to have routine sexual health check-ups and to get tested for HIV and STIs 4 times a year (every 3 months) with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. If you live in NSW, you can find the nearest place to get tested here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/where-to-get-tested/. If you have more sexual health questions you can call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

Will HIV transmitted to me if I swallow the cum of the HIV positive person?

Hi, That’s a really good question. If a HIV positive person is on effective treatment, they can suppress the viral load of HIV in their bodies to such low levels we call it ‘undetectable viral load’ (UVL). A HIV positive person with a UVL have much better health outcomes for themselves and also cannot transmit HIV to a HIV negative person. In fact, UVL is a highly effective HIV prevention strategy along with condoms and pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP). But let’s say you might assume your partner is HIV positive and isn’t aware of their status or is not on effective treatment. What’s the risk of HIV transmission then? Well, oral sex is actually considered very low risk for HIV transmission. This risk can increase if there is cumming in the mouth and there are cuts, sores or other infections present which can be entry points for HIV to enter your bloodstream. However, this risk is also considered quite low. Swallowing cum won’t increase your risk for HIV transmission, but leaving cum in your mouth for longer can as the bodily fluids may have more time to come in contact with other cuts or sores that may be present. So spitting or swallowing can both reduce your risk of HIV transmission! You can read more about oral sex and HIV in one of our blog posts here: https://endinghiv.org.au/blog/can-i-get-hiv-from-oral-sex/. Although oral sex is considered very low risk for HIV transmission, this can be different for other STIs. So we do always recommend to anyone who is sexually active to get tested for HIV and STIs 4 times a year (every 3 months) with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. If you live in NSW, you can find the nearest place to get tested here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/where-to-get-tested/. If you have further questions, you can also call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

I get oral sex from hiv infected people on a regular basis. Should I be worried

Hi, Thanks for your question. Oral sex is considered very low risk for HIV transmission. This risk can increase if there is cumming in the mouth and there are cuts, sores or other infections present (which can create easy points of entry for HIV). However, this is still considered very low risk. This risk can also be significantly reduced if an effective HIV prevention strategy is being used, such as pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) or undetectable viral load (UVL). If your HIV positive partners are on treatment and sustaining a UVL, then there is actually zero risk for HIV transmissions. You can read more about these strategies on our website here: https://endinghiv.org.au/stay-safe/. However, the transmission of other STIs during oral sex can be different. Often, STIs can also show no symptoms so we do always recommend to anyone who is sexually active to get tested for HIV and STIs 4 times a year (every 3 months) with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. If you live in NSW, you can find the nearest place to get tested here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/where-to-get-tested/. If you have further questions, you can also call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

If someone cums in my mouth then I clean my mouth then my teeth start bleeding will I have hiv ?

Hi, Thanks for your question. Oral sex is considered very low to no risk for HIV transmission. This risk can be increased if there is cumming in the mouth and cuts, sores or an infection are present. However, this risk is still considered quite low. You can significantly reduce this risk by considering effective HIV prevention strategies such as condoms, pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) or undetectable viral load (UVL). The risk of other STI transmissions during oral sex can be different so we do recommend to anyone who is sexually active to have routine sexual health check-ups and to get tested for HIV and STIs 4 times a year (every 3 months) with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. If you live in NSW, you can find the nearest place to get tested here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/where-to-get-tested/. If you have further sexual health questions, you can call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

I had oral sex with a partner with unknown HIV status. we used a condom but she put it with her mouth wrong the first time then she fixed it. the condom didn't break.

Hi, Thanks for your question. Oral sex is considered very low to no risk for HIV transmissions. And since you used a condom, that risk was also significantly reduced. However, the transmission of other STIs can be different during oral sex. S We recommend to anyone who is sexually active to have regular sexual health check-ups and to get tested for HIV and STIs 4 times a year with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. If you live in NSW, you can find the nearest place to get tested here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/where-to-get-tested/. If you have further questions, you can also call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

One month ago I did received oral sex (my penis on her mouth) that time her teeth small cut my penis head(glans) suddenly I stopped and washed within 5mints, I don't know her hiv status, now I too worried, I'm get hiv?

Hi, Thanks for your question. Oral sex is considered very low to no risk for HIV transmissions. This risk can increase if there are cuts or sores in the mouth of the person giving oral sex and there’s cumming in the mouth. However, this risk is still considered low. For your situation, receiving oral sex has no risk for HIV transmissions. Although your penis received a small cut, it would require bodily fluids (blood, semen, anal fluids or front hole/vaginal fluids) from a person living with HIV who is not on treatment to enter your bloodstream through that small cut. This would also be an unlikely situation during oral sex. However, the transmission of other STIs such as gonorrhoea or chlamydia can be different during oral sex. Often, these STIs can show no symptoms but are also easily treatable. We recommend to anyone who is sexually active to have routine sexual health check-ups and to get tested for HIV and STIs 4 times a year (every 3 months) with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. If you live in NSW, you can find the nearest place to get tested here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/where-to-get-tested/. If you have more sexual health questions you can call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

I have put my pennis to unknown person mouth can I get hiv?

Hi, Thanks for your question. Oral sex is considered very low to no risk for HIV transmission. However, this can be different for other STIs such as gonorrhoea or chlamydia, which are easily treatable. We recommend to anyone who is sexually active to have regular sexual health check-ups and to get tested for HIV and STIs 4 times a year (every 3 months) with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. If you live in NSW, you can find the nearest place to get tested here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/where-to-get-tested/

Hello, so i was having a jerking off together session and the guy asked if i would like to cum in his mout well afterward i cum but only on the tongue and the penis touched the tongue, but we didn’t had oral sex. So iwas wondering what is the risk of me getting hiv?

Hi, Thanks for your question. Oral sex is considered very low to no risk for HIV transmission. For HIV to be transmitted, it requires bodily fluids (semen, blood, anal fluids and front hole or vaginal fluids) from a person living with HIV who is not on treatment to enter the bloodstream of a HIV negative person. Often this is through fucking/being fucked or sharing injecting equipment. This means that the chances of HIV being transmitted from the guy’s tongue through your penis would be highly unlikely. However, this can be different for the transmission of other STIs, which can easily be treatable! We recommend to anyone who is sexually active to have regular check-ups and get tested for HIV and STIs 4 times a year with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. If you live in NSW, you can find the nearest place to get tested here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/where-to-get-tested/. If you have more questions and live in NSW, you can call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

Jack Norman is saying that receiving oral sex is no risk but other sources(sites) are mentioning some risk is involved if gum is bleeding.Kindly confirm

Hi, Thanks for getting in touch. Yes, the risk of HIV transmission through oral sex is considered very low to no risk. This risk can be increased if there is cumming in the mouth and there are cuts, ulcers, bleeding gums or other STIs present. But even in these cases it is still regarded as low risk. You can greatly reduce the risk of HIV transmission if you are using an effective HIV prevention strategy. Condoms, pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) and undetectable viral load (UVL) are highly effective HIV prevention strategies. You can find more information on these strategies and how to access them on our website here: https://endinghiv.org.au/stay-safe/ However, the transmission of other STIs such as gonorrhoea or chlamydia can be different during oral sex, which are easily treatable. If you are sexually active, we recommend having routine sexual health check-ups with your doctor or local sexual health clinic 4 times a year. If you live in NSW, you can find the nearest place to get tested here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/where-to-get-tested/ If you have any more sexual health questions, you can call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.