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Girl suck my penis She put saliva on my penis an suck Can I get hiv

Hi there, thanks for your question. Oral sex is very low to no risk for HIV transmission. However, this can be different for STIs. We recommend to anyone who is sexually active to test at least four times a year with their doctor or local sexual health clinic.

Why is HIV transmission risk for oral sex low, yet breastfeeding high? What difference is there between breast milk and semen in terms of transmission risk?

Hi, That’s a really good question! For HIV to be transmitted it requires the bodily fluids (blood, semen, front hole or vaginal fluids, rectal fluids or breast milk) from a HIV positive person who is not on treatment to enter the bloodstream of a HIV negative person. There are many variables that determine HIV risk, with one of them being how easy it is for one of these bodily fluids to enter the blood stream. Often this is through unprotected penetrative sex or sharing injecting equipment. You can read about HIV and how it’s transmitted on our website here: https://endinghiv.org.au/sti/hiv/. Oral sex is considered low risk for HIV transmission as the tissue of the mouth and throat are less susceptible to infection. This risk can increase if there is cumming in the mouth and there are cuts or sores present which create easy points of entry for HIV. However, this risk is still considered low. If someone cummed in a person’s arse during anal sex and didn’t use a form of protection, this would be considered as high risk as anal tissue is more susceptible to tears which create points of infection for HIV. From these examples, we can see that that the risk of HIV being transmitted through semen is based on the risk of the acts themselves and how much easier it is for HIV to enter the bloodstream. Breastfeeding also poses risk for HIV transmissions as breast milk is a bodily fluid that can carry HIV. However, the risk of HIV transmission can be significantly reduced if an effective HIV prevention strategy is being used. This includes condoms, pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) or undetectable viral load (UVL). You can read up about these options on our website here: https://endinghiv.org.au/stay-safe/. If you live in NSW and have further sexual health questions, you can call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone. If you are in need of further medical advice we recommend consulting with your doctor or health professional.

Hi I had oral sex with a male and I was giving felatio, I am negative and he is unknown , but when he ejaculated my mouth was not directly on it and it actually dripped a little inside my mouth , I thought I had a small cut in my teeth a very small one , but I am not sure my oral health is always healthy , and it has been more than a year since this happened , but I’m living in fear and I am thinking I have it . What is the risk ? And also the it was super hot in the room like very humid .

Hi, Thanks for your question. Oral sex is considered very low risk for HIV transmissions. Although this risk can increase if there is cumming in the mouth and there are cuts, sores or an infection present in the mouth, this risk is still considered quite low. However, the risk for the transmission of other STIs during oral sex can be different, but that’s okay since most of them are easily treatable! The only way to know what your sexual health status is to get a sexual health test. To have peace of mind we would recommend you get tested for HIV and STIs soon. We recommend to people who have been sexually active to have routine sexual health check-ups and to get tested for HIV and STIs 4 times a year (every 3 months) with your doctor or local sexual health clinic. (even if you’re showing no symptoms as some STIs are asymptomatic). If you live in NSW you can find the nearest place to get tested here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/where-to-get-tested/. If you live in NSW and have any further questions, you can also call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

Is it still safe for me to give my partner oral sex if Im hiv positive and detectable?

Hi, Thanks for your question. Oral sex is generally considered very low risk for HIV transmission. If you are HIV positive and giving your partner oral sex this is considered very low risk. However, this risk can increase if your HIV negative partner is giving oral to you and there is cumming in their mouth where cuts, sores or an infection is present. You can read more about oral sex and HIV on this Aidsmap website here: https://www.aidsmap.com/about-hiv/oral-sex. To reduce this risk to zero, we recommend accessing HIV treatment as soon as possible in order to achieve an undetectable viral load (UVL). We recommend consulting with your doctor as soon as possible for further medical advice and to access HIV treatment. People living with HIV who have a UVL cannot transmit HIV to a HIV negative person, and it’s actually one of the most effective HIV prevention strategies. While you still have a detectable viral load, we recommend using other HIV prevention strategies during sex, such as condoms or having sex with a partner who is on pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP). You can read more about these strategies on our website here: https://endinghiv.org.au/stay-safe/. In terms of other STIs, their risk of transmission during oral sex can be different so we recommend to anyone who is sexually active to get a routine sexual health test 4 times a year (every 3 months) with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. If you live in NSW, you can find the nearest place to get tested here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/where-to-get-tested/. If you live in NSW and have any further questions, you can also call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

Hi! I have flu like symptoms (not COVID), and I had given oral pleasure to multiple partners over the past 3 months. All penetrations were done with a condom. I have only had pre-ejaculation in my mouth, but I usually have pretty bad gums. All of my partners were not reported to have HIV. Is there a high risk of my flu symptoms being related to HIV? Thanks!

Hi, Thanks for your question. Oral sex is considered very low risk for HIV transmissions. However, the risk for other STIs being transmitted during oral sex can be different so we recommend to anyone who is sexually active to have routine tests for HIV and STIs with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. Semen (including pre-cum), blood, anal fluids, front hole or vaginal fluids, and breast milk are the bodily fluids that can carry HIV. So having pre-cum in your mouth while having bad gums or cuts, sores and other infections in your mouth can increase the risk of HIV transmission. However, this risk is still considered low. Although flu-like symptoms are one of the symptoms for HIV, it’s also a symptom that looks very similar to many other things. We recommend having a check-up with your doctor and seeking further medical advice from them around the symptoms you’re experiencing. If you live in NSW and have any further questions, you can also call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

Can you get HIV from oral sex? The guy is HIV+ But he did not cum in my mouth, but I think he precummed.

Hi, Thanks for your question. Oral sex is considered very low risk. Although the risk can increase if there is cumming in the mouth and cuts, sores or other STIs are present, this risk is still considered quite low. However, the risk for the transmission of other STIs can be different. We recommend to anyone who is sexually active to have routine sexual health check-ups and to get tested for HIV and STIs 4 times a year (every 3 months) with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. If you live in NSW, you can find the nearest place to get tested here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/where-to-get-tested/. For people who are HIV positive, if they are on treatment, they may be sustaining an undetectable viral load (UVL). A HIV positive person with a UVL have suppressed the level of HIV in their bodies to such low levels that they have better health outcomes for themselves and cannot transmit HIV to a HIV negative person. If you have further questions, you can call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

I had a low risk encounter where I have oral and tasted precum but he didn't ejaculate. I tested negative at 8 and 12 weeks and 6, 8 and 10 months with a 4th Gen test drawn from the veins and also at 20 weeks with an RNA test. Can i be confident that I'm negative?

Hi, Thanks for your question. Oral sex is considered very low risk. Although the risk can increase if there is cumming in the mouth and cuts, sores or other STIs are present, this risk is still considered quite low. However, the risk for the transmission of other STIs can be different. So we recommend to anyone who is sexually active to have routine sexual health check-ups, even when they have no symptoms as some STIs are asymptomatic. Tests for HIV have a window period of between 2 weeks and 3 months depending on the test. The ‘window period’ is the amount of time it takes for a reactive result to appear in a HIV test after being exposed to HIV. We always recommend confirming with your test provider what their window periods are. Your tests at 12 weeks and 6, 8 and 10 months, and 20 weeks sit outside the window period. This means that the negative results you received were conclusive for your HIV status. However, if you’ve continued to be sexually active you will need to get tested again. We recommend to anyone who is sexually active to get tested for HIV and STIs 4 times a year (every 3 months) with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. You can read more about testing on our website here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/all-about-testing/. If you have further questions, you can call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

I had an oral sex with someone I met for the very first time and also deep kiss, but now am worried of being infected with STD and HIV please help.

Hi, Thanks for your question. Oral sex is considered very low to no risk for HIV transmissions. This risk can increase if there are cuts or sores in the mouth of the person giving oral sex and there’s cumming in the mouth. However, this risk is still considered low. However, the transmission of other STIs such as gonorrhoea or chlamydia can be different during oral sex. Often, these STIs can show no symptoms but are also easily treatable. We recommend to anyone who is sexually active to have routine sexual health check-ups and to get tested for HIV and STIs 4 times a year (every 3 months) with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. If you live in NSW, you can find the nearest place to get tested here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/where-to-get-tested/. If you have more sexual health questions you can call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.

Will HIV transmitted to me if I swallow the cum of the HIV positive person?

Hi, That’s a really good question. If a HIV positive person is on effective treatment, they can suppress the viral load of HIV in their bodies to such low levels we call it ‘undetectable viral load’ (UVL). A HIV positive person with a UVL have much better health outcomes for themselves and also cannot transmit HIV to a HIV negative person. In fact, UVL is a highly effective HIV prevention strategy along with condoms and pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP). But let’s say you might assume your partner is HIV positive and isn’t aware of their status or is not on effective treatment. What’s the risk of HIV transmission then? Well, oral sex is actually considered very low risk for HIV transmission. This risk can increase if there is cumming in the mouth and there are cuts, sores or other infections present which can be entry points for HIV to enter your bloodstream. However, this risk is also considered quite low. Swallowing cum won’t increase your risk for HIV transmission, but leaving cum in your mouth for longer can as the bodily fluids may have more time to come in contact with other cuts or sores that may be present. So spitting or swallowing can both reduce your risk of HIV transmission! You can read more about oral sex and HIV in one of our blog posts here: https://endinghiv.org.au/blog/can-i-get-hiv-from-oral-sex/. Although oral sex is considered very low risk for HIV transmission, this can be different for other STIs. So we do always recommend to anyone who is sexually active to get tested for HIV and STIs 4 times a year (every 3 months) with their doctor or local sexual health clinic. If you live in NSW, you can find the nearest place to get tested here: https://endinghiv.org.au/test-often/where-to-get-tested/. If you have further questions, you can also call the Sexual Health Infolink at 1800 451 624 where a sexual health nurse can answer your questions over the phone.