Hooking-up in the era of COVID-19

Right now around the world, a lot of things are changing very quickly. But one thing that hasn’t changed is our desire to get it on.

The COVID-19 alert has changed our daily routines, affected our finances and shopping habits, and prompted us to adjust how we interact with others, including sex.

In Australia, health experts are recommending social distancing to slow the spread of the coronavirus, and while COVID-19 is not a sexually transmitted infection, physical contact during sex carries a high risk of transmission.

Because of this, at this time, casual sex is strongly discouraged. But that doesn’t mean the end of sexual pleasure altogether.

We’ve always found inventive ways of achieving pleasure sexually and now’s the time to let your creativity flow! Even if we are physically alone, we are all in this together.

You and your boo

You may be in either a monogamous, polyamorous or any other exclusive relationship with one or more people and choose to continue to have sex together. Whether you live with them or not, unless you are completely isolated inside together in a controlled setting with zero interaction with the outside world (AKA Jim Carrey in the Truman Show), there is still that risk of one of you unknowingly coming into contact with the virus from outside your home and then bringing it into the household.

Talk to each other, assess your situation and make that decision together.

You may choose to continue having sex with a partner however this is only recommended for:

  • A partner, or partners, you are currently living with.
  • A regular partner where you have both been practising social distancing.

The circumstances change if either of you are self-isolating – in this case you should avoid close contact until given the all-clear. Patience is a virtue!

The distance between us

You can still get your freak on without venturing out of the house – there are many ways of keeping things juicy that don’t involve physical contact. While there may be challenges, overcoming fear and discovering new ways of experiencing sexual pleasure just happens to be something that our community are pretty good at.

Get a hand on it

First stop: masturbation station! Masturbating or having a solo session is not only a safe way of practising social distancing, but this can be a good moment for rediscovering ways to please yourself. Run a scan of your body, see what feels good, try something new, challenge yourself. Whether it’s a new hand grip (or maybe not even using your hands!), the position of your body, or where you do it in the house – the possibilities are endless.

Take the time to enjoy yourself. No need to channel that adolescent, horny teenager trying to jerk off at home on the DL – you don’t have to rush. After all, what else do you have to do?

Is it an APP-ropriate time…?

While it’s definitely not the time to be arranging dates, hook-ups, or the ever-ambiguous “grabbing a coffee sometime,” having a scroll through dating apps isn’t a bad idea at all.

This could be the perfect time to (virtually) meet the future-love-of-your-life / best-sex-ever. Start a conversation, have a chat, get to know them online now. Think about it as laying the groundwork for future bliss.

This situation will end – why not plan ahead with some swiping and typing?

Dial 69 for a good time

Many dating and messaging apps allow you to share audio, either through calls or recordings, and most of us have a mobile phone so we can do this almost anywhere. Before, you can dial 69 and start getting your phone thang on, remember to establish consent. Not sure what to say when you get on the line? Caller, it’s all about the power of description. Describe what you are doing and where you are going with your audio hook-up. Into the bedroom, up the wall, onto a sling? Use your senses to help describe it – “my hand is slowly sliding up my…” or “the taste of your pit on my tongue…” You get the picture.

Lights, camera, action!

You’ve heard of FaceTime, but what about HoleTime? Video is a format where you can capture anything from the simplest jack-off session, a tease of ‘just the tip’ to a major motion picture (‘motion’ being the keyword here). Feeling creative? Add a filter, add a cheeky emoji, add a soundtrack – you’re the director, producer and star! Just be mindful of what you’re posting or sharing – the world-wide web can be an unforgiving place #screenrecord.

While you are chatting or swapping photos and videos on dating or hook-up apps, it can be tempting to meet up in person. But fight the urge, now is not the time. Good things cum to those who wait.

Oi, why not try a toy?

The time for sex toys is now. You might even be able to find something that is wifi-enabled and remote controlled to let your partner play with you from a distance. Remember to wash up after – especially if you think it may be shared or reused in the future.

You can find out more about different types of sex toys and what they’re good for here.

Wash your hands honey

If you’re going to have sex with someone (even if it’s your long-term monogamous partner) make sure you’ve washed beforehand. A full body shower is best to prevent the spread of viruses and bacteria, but at the very least you should each wash your hands with soap and water for 20 seconds before you get started – especially if one of you has travelled to get there.

Safety. Positivity. Awareness. Repeat.

It’s too early to tell how the COVID-19 will impact us or how long the situation will endure. But by keeping a keen and strong sense of hygiene and safety, a positive mindset and by continuing to be informed and aware, we can help ‘flatten the curve’ of this public health emergency and get back to sex as it was meant to be – free of shame and in the flesh.